Sometimes life is great. Everything is going well, work is amazing, things with your significant other and your kids are amazing and it seems like nothing can go wrong.
Then, it happens. The unexpected. Layoffs at work, your significant other seems to pick at every little thing you do and and your kids have been failing math all along and you had no idea.
Your world is falling apart. NOTHING is going right and all you want to do is curl up in a dark corner and wait for things to get back to normal.
We all know that is NOT an option. not even slightly. It's going to take so much more to knock you off your game.
I have learned that sometimes, these obstacles arise not to weaken us, but to strengthen us. One of my favorite sayings is "You have survived 100% of your worst days." And it's true. No matter how absolutely terrible things have gotten for you, you made it through! You survived to tell the tale!
How are we going to keep pressing on during these times?
SHIFT YOUR MINDSET!
We're done having a pity party. We're done feeling sorry for ourselves. That mindset changes nothing at all. Get into your Word. Read where God says he will never give you more than you can handle
(1 Corinthians 10:13). Put your headphones in and search for encouraging podcast. Look yourself in the mirror and tell yourself at least three positive affirmations at least twice a day.
See, our words have POWER! We were made in the image of God, who spoke the Earth into existence. And sometimes, you just have to fake it until you make it, and that's okay too.
It takes time to shift your mindset. My go to things are simple and two are mentioned above:
Get into The Word
I grew up memorizing scripture. So in hard times, I know what the Word says. But there are times I have to go to Google or Pinterest for help. Knowing what God says about me brings me so much peace.
Again, your words have power. There is a list that I have in my phone to help me when I'm having a hard time. A lot of them come from scripture. Others include "You KNOW you're a Bad A**!" but you get the point. It truely boosts my self confidence, if even for a moment.
Talk it Out
Ya girl is a verbal prossesor. Which means that I have to talk through my problems. Sometimes multiple times. As in, my closest friends hear about the same thing 3-5 times before a solution is found. But that is so helpful! They know that I need to talk it throughfirst, then I'm open to their advice. Sometimes that view from the outside is what really helps us think beyond our emotions and figure things out logically.
Take a Break
Sometimes you need to take a break. Just a moment to breathe. My thing to do? Close your eyes. Breathe in slowly counting to four. Hold your breathe for four seconds. Breathe out for four seconds. Hold your breath for four seconds. I do it at work, home and even at the grocery store when I'm losing control of my emotions. Take a walk around the block, or even just sit in a room with an egg timer for five minutes with no distractions. That means no phone. or smart watch, TV off and no radio. Just having that moment can change everything.
I hope these things help you to shift your mindset!